Prologue -- Book one. In the days of my youth I was told what it means to be a man -- Book two. Now I've reached that age I try to do all those things the best I can -- Book three. No matter how I try, I find my way into the same old jam -- Epilogue -- Acknowledgments.

"Big Lou Junod dominated every room he entered. He worshipped the sun and the sea, his own bronzed body, Frank Sinatra, and beautiful women. He was a successful traveling handbag salesman who carried himself like a celebrity. He'd return from the road with stories of going to nightclubs where the stars--Ava Gardner, maybe Liz Taylor--'couldn't keep their eyes off . . . your father.' He had countless affairs and didn't do much to hide them. Lou could be cruel to Fran, his wife of fifty-nine years, but he loved his youngest son. Tom was a skin-and-bones, nervous boy, devoted to his mother, but Lou sought to turn him into a version of himself. He showered him with advice about how to dress ('A turtleneck is the most flattering thing a man can wear'), how to be an alpha male, and especially, how to attract and bed women. His parting speech when Tom went to college was: "Do yourself a favor and date a Jewish girl. They're all nymphos.' When Tom started seeing his future wife, Janet, Lou's efforts to entice Tom into his version of manhood accelerated on nights in New York, L.A., and Paris. Tom wrestled with Lou's imposing presence all his life. When one of Lou's mistresses stood up at his funeral and announced, "Can we all . . . just agree . . . that this . . . was a man,' Tom set off to learn the facts of his father's life, and why he was the way he was. The stunning secrets he uncovered--about his father, his father's lovers, and deceptions going back generations--staggered Tom, but in the process allowed him, at last, to become his own man, by his own lights. In the Days of My Youth I Was Told What It Means to Be a Man is an intensely emotional detective story powered by a series of cascading revelations. The book is a triumph of bravura writing; it is a tale of a son reckoning with the consequences of his father's life and, in the end, of the son's redemption" -- Book jacket.